What Does Turning 25 Years Old Mean to Me?

A quarter of a century is a significant milestone. During this time, the urge to reflect on life and compare it with others can be overwhelming.

Recently, I’ve been caught in a cycle of self-critique. I feel like I’ve accomplished too little, faced misfortune, and that others have it better.

After wrestling with these thoughts, I realized it’s time to take action. Despite investing time and effort for 25 years, I still haven’t achieved what others have.

Given this, I’ve decided to shift my focus from overthinking to constructive action. A colleague suggested an informal research group centered on cognitive science – a topic I’ll likely discuss often. I’m thrilled to find a community so passionate about cognitive science and equipped with strong mathematical skills.

What New Projects Am I Diving Into?

Overcoming initial hesitation, I’m diving in, even though it’s unpaid. I see the value in developing theories and ideas firsthand, especially those I’ve mostly read about in the popular press.

For instance, learning about the Inuit’s color perception is fascinating. These individuals, who differentiate various snow types, gain a unique perspective on colors like greenish-white and bluish. Overall, immersing myself in interests and connecting with like-minded people helps me overcome the winter-related melancholy.

Speaking of money, it often feels like a separate entity, flowing in and out at its own will. I recently accepted my financial constraints. Furthermore, I received an email notifying me that a company is interested in purchasing and using the questionnaire I created during my Psychology studies. 

Additionally, people are willing to help find sponsors for a potentially lucrative patent project. Even my math co-author completed our work, which could lead to a grant-based bonus and an invitation to a conference. Just as I lamented my financial woes, money began to materialize unexpectedly.

What Are a Few Gems I’d Like To Share With You?

This is another reason to steadfastly pursue your passions and not worry about others or external factors. Now, I’d like to share a few recent discoveries.

1. Heroic Imagination by Philip Zimbardo. Zimbardo, known for the prisoner experiment, has shifted his focus to heroism in his later years. According to Franco, Blau and Zimbardo (2011), *Review of General Psychology*, heroic action can be distinguished from ordinary altruism. This distinction is made by the acceptance of a real risk or sacrifice, and situational factors play a significant role in whether people act heroically. His project asserts that, just as circumstances can bring out an animal instinct in anyone, they can also awaken a hero’s drive to save the world: www.heroicimagination.org. The project aims to introduce heroism lessons in American schools, fostering courage and the instinct to help. The ultimate goal is to cultivate an army of potential heroes. This group would be ready to save lives, mediate conflicts, report discrimination, and assist others.
2. “The Emotional Brain” by LeDoux (2000). A well-written book about emotions and their brain mechanisms, accessible even to non-experts. According to LeDoux (2000), *Annual Review of Neuroscience*, the amygdala plays a central role. This role is within the brain circuitry underlying the acquisition, storage, and expression of emotional memory. It’s available in Polish and offers valuable insights into understanding oneself and unconscious motives.

What Other Books Stood Out to Me Recently?

1. Barbara de Vangelis. After six divorces, Barbara de Vangelis finally learned from her mistakes in her seventh marriage. She now offers marriage counseling and has authored books on relationships. Initially skeptical, I found her books full of common-sense advice. De Vangelis promotes understanding and patience in relationships. She believes differences can strengthen bonds rather than divide. She advocates for self-confidence but acknowledges it might not resonate with all men.
2. “The Secret Life of Salvador Dali.” Dali’s autobiography provides colorful anecdotes, revealing human vanity taken to extreme levels. According to Raskin (1980), this link between self-focus and creative output is a documented pattern. It is not just an impression from one flamboyant artist. Despite affecting my perception of his art, I recommend it for its insight into human nature.
3. Fairy tales. From bedtime stories for children to tales for adults, fairy tales offer valuable narratives for reflection. I’ve even come across reports of real-life chupacabra. According to Dagnall et al. (2017), belief in this kind of urban legend is linked to something else. It is connected to how people test reality against their own experience, rather than simply gullibility. While it sends shivers down my spine, it adds a sense of mystery to life.

Embracing these discoveries and pursuing passions can lead to newfound satisfaction and understanding.